If you're eager and desperate, they'll be wary. I wish I could say just avoid these ladies, but yes youre married into this family. By Hagar Scher Updated on June 22, 2022 01 of 08 7 Bizarre Toddler Behaviors, Explained Your toddler is becoming a verbal, opinionated little person. Im so sorry for you loss. It's part of the culture, and doesn't have the significance it would have if done in the US. Anyway hope that helps, main thing is dont be afraid to shine for fear that others may not like it. I wish I had this super powerearly on. I know how you feel. Why do women get jealous of each other? How do jealous women behave? I have goten dirty looks in the shop after work. Hope you can go where you want, dressed as you like, and ignore anyone who is having a problem with you. When I did this they were happy to oblige, and we had fun. One of them we use to go out to eat every day. Within an hour of getting there, I remembered why I often opt-out of going to things like this, even though they can be great networking opportunities. The corporate world is full of damage insecure women who use the work place as a punching bag. It isnt anyone you know of. People, in general do not like hearing the truth, even when they are wrong. You closely observe people to see how they're responding to your presence, see if they notice you standing there, willing them to approach you. They would get on Facebook make fake pages of my daughters saying my daughters 12 &14 year olds are slut hoes trying to sell my babies on-line. The other kind like to join a pack of other jealous women that they find comfort in hating on you together in their own stinky company. Because thats what THEY would be telling THEMSELVES had THEY the good fortune of your genes. Im dealing with two jealous sister in laws :(. I can totally relate to all of these comments, and Im very sad for everyone whos been treated badly because of jealousy. That year my car did collect many mysterious key marks and dents. Well if it only happened once I would say it could have just been she was stressed about something and you caught her eye at the wrong time but since it is several times I don't believe that. (so do I) Follow What is your opinion? All content on this website, including dictionary, thesaurus, literature, geography, and other reference data is for informational purposes only. But I just wanted to express my admiration for all you sweet ladies who are so badly treated. More importantly the number of victims that are seriously injured? Ignore her negativity, thats the best thing you can do. I need serious lady advice she fucks me up. I have very few friends as the behaviour of some of them has been down right mean and nasty. And they dont even try to hide it. They hate me. A complete stranger! A lot of women believe that the more beautiful and likable you are, the less down to earth you are. Yes, its so true, the nicer you are, the bigger target you become. She told someone that I turned up two hours late and she had to hold up the party for me and my child! OMG I believe the worst kind of jealousy is one that you love. You need to address your self worth and confidence. look whos here to mock me. She does have a resting bitch face though. It wasnt rude, but it was just honest and to the point. Tony was being a real pain. 22. I hate it for my older daughter too she gets a lot of bad looks and sneers from girls her own age and older women but thank Christ she is a strong person! Anyway, ever since I was about 1012, its really bummed me out that other girls and women often seem to treat me with some type of malice. Dont let them upset you! The hottest and smartest one of all is also the one whos been the nicest to me. No matter what I tried, nothing stopped them: being nice to them, ignoring them, confronting them. I had never experienced being mistreated until I was married. do. This is true! lol I hope my essay of a comment made sense! Ive joined several book clubs and church groups, but the women all circle around talking to each other and no one starts a conversation with me. Reading these stories. I know several very beautiful women and none of them are ostracized because of it; just the opposite, in fact. For her to have words with you to stay away from her husband thats a RED FLAG that perhaps she has caught him looking at you or she does not trust either of you. Thanks Jen x, Hi Demi, Firstly, as far as my looks are concerned, I did not come to this conclusion on my own. Im sorry to hear this is the worst case I have heard of yet. Ever since then shes kept her distance from me, no matter how much Ive tried to build a good relationship with her. She keeps cocking back, and thinking its her, got hooked up with some guy.. that looks similar to my boyfriend Jason in looks. XO Jen. Then she wont see me for months, and I wont see that gym bag in her hand. It really bugs to be nice and friendly and yet people still act rudely. Please keep it cute. A smile shows confidence. I feel we all have a place in the sun and I encourage everyone I meet. Im just so upset that she would leave me hanging. Hi Nadia, Today at school a boy who has a big crush on me was talking to me. Im a woman in my late twenties who lives in image-conscious New York. But my husband said thats what they want you do & not to scoop down to their level. I take umbrage to that statement "don't hate me because I'm beautiful." Firstly, as far as my looks are concerned, I did not come to this conclusion on my own. Ive always brushed it off but now its really getting under my skin. I want normal interactions and normal relationships not creepy perverted attention from creepy strangers which is why I am trying to reach out to other people. I was her only true close friend, her daughter. For instance in High school these creeps never showed true genuine spirit to girls that THEY didnt want in their social groups. i keep asking myself how someone can become so obsessed with another person. XO Jen. Ive included it on my post: top tools every woman should own. Plus its the attitude I have in me, and my confidence from being picked on. Beware. Youre humble. One day hell will swallow her up. Im a quiet person who usually keeps to myself so everyone knows I would not start drama. If anything is stressing you out in life, you need to leave it alone and let it be. Girls hate you for being better and guys just want to fuck. I am a good person and due to the treatment of many for years now, I am so sad. Don't look away, that codes as predatory to the mammalian brain. People are horrible, especially when they feel threatened and jealous. The truth always comes out. To this day my sister inlaw and I are just civil friends (we have to be), she still does pathetic things whenever she hears my mother inlaw talk good about me and my kids, shell upload dozens of selfies of herself with our mother inlaw and make constant dedications and shes never uploaded any photo of me on her page until last week, she posted a very unflattering photo of me and her and this couple she said Happy Anniversary to the couple, but I know she purposely posted the photo because I look enormous and fat in the photo LOL, Some people will never change honestly, doesnt matter how many years you put up with them. Rewind 8 months later she harasses me and micromanage only me and stop complementing which is ok, but Ive noticed. Best of luck to you. You simply amazing! Its what her crazy mind wants. Confidence is the best defence. YAY!!! You wont even have to get mean on their level. I bought a car mysteriously sugar was found in my tank. As far as unwanted attention, I have received plenty of it but did not feel the need to mention it because it is not something I desire. Wow, that girl was very rude. So I apologised for that as I thought leave it,sort of dont go into it! Stay mindful and at peace with the ever-changing stream of consciousness. They wont ever stop. The next day. Whenever we go to visit my husbands parents, I always catch her staring at me and whenever I catch her staring at me she turns her face away. And sometimes, they can just be downright dangerous and sadistic. Yuck. Beware, just because a woman says shes your friend and has your back, does not make it so. I have never felt so uncomfortable in my whole life,I just wanted the floor to open and swallow me up other occasions I have been to the local pub,seen some of the mums in there and they would say that I am so gorgeous and that my daughter looks like my sister,thenI go to say hello to them over the school and they just blank me and they stand in groups and just stare at me its so uncomfortable! Potentially, to be recognised is to be understood. I dont understand how someone could so easily take away your income from you based simply on jealousy. Ever. Take care. Does she not have any friends? Youre a winner! Then to top it off she went around bragging to my co workers what she had donegetting me firedbefore I was even told. These mean women are in my family, at my job, in church and in general public. Jen, What kind of world are we living in. jealous women will take a photo of you or film you. Yikes. But there are many that arent. Tell her how happy you are. Im glad this brings you comfort. In other words, something they made up in their head and lashing out at her with the dirty looks and her mind is far from what they are thinking. When you know your triggers and develop your awareness and habits of how you are being, you can get better at generating how you are yourself, and allow others less impact on you. Hi Jameka, They assume Im not because of how I carry myself and how I look. So my advice is to loosen up. I'm a reasonably good-looking graduate student. When I walk past a woman with her man, whether shes pretty or not, I ignore the guy and smile at her. He could be a nice person but she rules the house. Looking me up and down, watching my every move, lying on me to the boss. The issue.. is trolling, and completely lying but I heard.. what was said, and people not listening. I have no proof and just ignore them. The reason why I know they did not like my brain fart comment was because one of the nicer ladies saw me as I was leaving and said, Youve been here a long time. Wow. Just be happy and enjoy life. Hi Tiffany, Your experiences youve shared here are far too common. Sounds like you work with a bunch of bitches. As part of our commitment to that mission, the AskWomen subreddit is curated to promote respectful and on-topic discussions, and not serve as a debate subreddit. BUT, if someone is purposefully trying to be aggressive, beat down your spirit or hurt you because of jealouslyI say stand your ground and make them regret it. Did you notice? I said, you of all people know what theyre going through why? At the school where I work, I encourage staff constantly to recognise young people - forever saying hello, forever calling them by their names and making eye contact; because for the vast majority, this daily drip-feed of recognition is a relief: it feels like mattering, like belonging. And no Im not huge, 40 or Hispanic. Im sure you already know that! LOL. Last night at dinner with a girlfriend who is engaged to be married I told her the Chef at this resturant was flirting with me. It really upsets me that she sees me this way! Ritka, If someone snubs you, they're rude! Seem familiar? He either leaves a message with me (I suspect he thinks I don't give them to her) or leaves a message on the machine. I have dealt with this behavior for so long, since I was in my 20s that I have become really good at predicting the future as it relates to mean, evil, nasty people who back stab you yet smile in your face. Girls always said she think she cute. 1. Even if you have to fake it till you make it. I used to do that too, try and hide in ill fitting oversize clothes and forego makeup or doing my hair so people would leave me alone. The one time Ive confronted her about always staring at me, she threatened to start a fight with me so I walked away, shut my bedroom door, and she was punching it telling me to come out. Its generally my experience that there are two types of jealous women: 1. the type that want you to know that they dont like you and the 2. the type that DO NOT want you to know that they dislike you. Archived post. I have been going through this I am 43 since highschool I have had girlfriends be two faced and I have gone through it at work currently once in my 20s and now. Yes, you are right. I am very good at my job and thats another issue for the haters. Shes nice and conversational and gives off a first likable impression but when you are the target it doesnt take her long to make you feel like shes trying to put you in a pecking order.I think she always needs at least 1 person whom she sees as different so she can feel superior. I just stop trying. Reminds me when I went to the store and some chick checked me out head to toe and started kissing her man He checks me out and she starts talking shit about me and he agrees Im likereally? No way.. is she similar to me. I hope things are better now between you and your sister. and they closed the door. They give odd looks that are obvious to try and make you uncomfortable. At this point I really do NOT like women at all. People I once thought were my friends wanted to see me suffer. The problem is they.. keep spraying crap, and are getting paid to harass me with.. European money, or some form of Cash Money. If you were so beautiful that others reacted strongly to your appearance, you'd know it. Grab a cup of coffee and lets dish! Genuine Question, How are women and men supposed to be with each other if we're so different? At this point Im truly over it and I try not to let her get under my skin but Im not going to lie its difficult. It could be that shes unhappy in her own life and wants misery for company. Real women dont hate on other women,and I never do. Happy people dont do this. Thought I was all wrong. This was brought to my attention by my friends when I asked why I get the responses I get. Then I left. I find the best thing to do is have your own business. Im also a sweetheart and when women realize Im not a stuck up b**** its unbelievable to them. Do you get judgmental looks too when you are outside and in your college? but remember, if u want to seem approacheable, smile more often. @jca I hope youre right! It was torrential rain outside and I dont drive and my husband was not home he was at work.Out of all fairness I should of phoned her and said I am running late! The atmosphere was so tense and toxic. Observe and remember your own experiences and base your need to protect yourself on that reality. I moved from the city to a village and Ive been living in the village for about 4 years now! You should always stick up for yourself, especially because this tarnishes your charter. If you ever found yourself giving a dirty look to another woman, why do you do it? again, she gossipped about her friend the entire time, and when i tried to make positive conversation, her mood changed trastically to bitchy. Im like.really? praying for you. my school friends were also jealous but i could handle them easily,they still talked to me,but simultaneously,i also went through a bad break-up and my ex made such situations that,all the girls and boys sided with him. she had something negative to say about anyone who passed at the coffee shopwe were sitting outside. And realize this beautiful ladies. In fact, they might be downright bossytelling. Never trust anyone who hates you. why not respond to midori thoroughly, instead of simply freaking out about the fact she may not share your impression of yourself? Dont know why nothin wrong with a bit of good clean chok shit. Its all about Power, and Control. But I didnt show that I was upset and played it off. People that perceive your life is too easy are usually this type of mean person. Im so sorry to hear theres people like this. Its because people can relate to them, despite their good looks. At least you addressed the jealous ladies.
For now youll have to enjoy your own company. I am a sweet person but I find myself being drained from the negativity. How embarrassing. Our need for recognition is primitive, therefore, and never goes away. It destroys friendships and relationships and creates a toxic environment. Instead of trusting its impaired judgement, I either ask someone else or, if no-one is available, I at least make sure to consciously add a healthy dose of, Yeah, they like me. It was so bad I developed a numbness in my body. Shes always checking me out and had slowly started changing her hair colour to blonde like mine. The thing.. is the girl is stupid, and a retard. And sometimes guys will even try to hurt you on purpose by backstabbing you and siding up against you with jealous females. Most of my current friends could easily be models. Keep doing an A+ job at work. I got yoga barbie, i got annoying voice and other nasty comments by less flexible women. after that i had no more interest so see her again, but she kept calling me almost every day, so when she asked me to join her to go to a town market, i said yes. And I dont even.. care about them. I was once thin and now Im a larger woman nothing has changed, in fact it seems to have increased. Ive just never been into girly stuff and have always had a lot of male friends. Yikes! I think she has voodoo on his dum behind. You need to stand up to that pressure and be true to yourself. You posted your query, I found it was something I could relate to, and I gave you a thoughtful response. Today I saw this gorgeous girl in the bathroom , we were washing our hands together and I felt shy, she said she liked my outfit. Now, you tell me? Its horrible how other women will treat you because youre pretty. Sorry theyre rude. One of them is bound to get mad or jealous of each other. I need some advice. She was so pretty. It may also be another woman that is very gorgeous they want to be the only pretty girl in the room. i try to share how I earned my success and give others tips for school and success at work. I don't know how else to be friendlier or more approachable. The differences might be particularly noticeable if you're in a smaller city with less exposure to different cultures. Woo hoo Sierra, Hell tell me WHOA this woman across from you kept looking at you up and down and then she kept staring at your ring. I told him I would never stare at anyone like that because its rude. Jen, Ive found size has nothing to do with it. I was basically a pretty girls face without the body. The problem is.. Am I right?). However, if you just act like yourself without trying to actually "win" people over, just be yourself, things will fall into place. Im so sorry to say that once youre a victim of this, it happens wherever you work. 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